There’s a hole in my sidewalk

There’s a hole in my sidewalk

Posted on Jul 12, 2013

There’s a hole in my sidewalk

I don’t know if it’s the position of the planets (Mercury retrograde, anyone?) or what, but lately I feel as if I’m living in the movie “Groundhog Day”. Each day I find myself thinking, “this again?” in relation to some issue or experience I thought I had already dealt with and put to bed.

Just when I think I’ve overcome an obstacle, or put an old, useless belief about myself to rest, something seems to trigger me and up it pops once more, asking me to take a closer look.

To be honest, I’m exhausted!

There has been a benefit to all this rehashing of old issues though. It’s shown a bright light on the areas of my life where I tend to make the same mistakes over and over again. The areas where I don’t learn from past experiences and end up making the same choice, expecting a different outcome (I believe that’s the definition of insanity, by the way).

Thankfully, I’m not alone in this learning of life lessons; in my going around and around making the same mistakes time and again. It would seem as if it’s an emotional state that many fall into at one point or another.

Some people continue to choose the same type of romantic partner over and over, only to see the relationship end in the same old nasty way. They end up wondering, “Why can’t I find the right person for me?”

Others repeatedly take similar job positions, each one as unfulfilling as the last. These people can’t understand why they’re not making more progress in their careers.

For others, it’s an addiction that keeps them stuck on a hamster wheel of bad decisions with seemingly no way off.

Ever the astute observer of human nature, Dr. Bach noticed how easily people can get stuck making the same mistakes over and over and found a flower to give us a hand. It’s called Chestnut Bud.

If there’s an area of your life where you’re repeating the same patterns or making the same mistakes, Chestnut Bud can help you stay present in the moment, allowing you to gain wisdom and knowledge from your experiences and use what you learn to make more informed decisions going forward.

The following poem was brought to my attention recently and it beautifully illustrates the role Chestnut Bud can play in our lives.

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

by Portia Nelson

Chapter 1

I walk down the street.

There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk.

And I fall in.

I am lost. I am helpless. It isn’t my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again.

I can’t believe I am in the same place.

But it isn’t my fault.

It takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3

I walk down the same street and there is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it there, and still I fall in.

It’s a habit.

But my eyes are open and I know where I am.

It is my fault and I get out immediately.

Chapter 4

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

Chapter 5

I walk down a different street.

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We all have blind spots that keep up perpetually stuck in Chapters 1 and 2; walking down the same street and falling in the same hole. It’s part of being human.

When you find yourself stuck in this loop and are looking for someone or something to shine a light on the path to a new street, choose Chestnut Bud. It’ll help you take a clear inventory of where you’ve been and chart a course down a new street in no time!

 

 

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