Flower power for the holidays – part 3
Welcome to part three of my series on Bach flowers to help you thrive through the holiday season!
Although songs like to tell us that this is the most wonderful time of the year, for many it’s not all tinsel and twinkle lights. Plenty of people feel depressed, stressed, overwhelmed and just plain cranky during this time of year and, in my opinion, for good reason. This month is more fully loaded than any other for most, and the pressure to make the season merry and bright can really take its toll on our emotions.
If you’re someone who is having trouble finding the merry in your holiday because you’re feeling depressed for no real reason, check out my post on the Bach flower essence Mustard.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, head here for three Bach flowers to help.
And, if the holidays have you feeling impatient and cranky, check out last week’s post for recommendations to calm your inner Scrooge.
Whether the melodic strains of your favorite carol sends your mind racing back to childhood, or dreams of the day when the holiday is finally over have your mind drifting ahead to January 1st, it can be difficult to stay present during this month. It’s my belief though, that one of the best things we can do to ensure a happy holiday is to stay focused on the present moment and appreciate it for all it brings – the good, the bad and the ugly.
Easier said than done though, right?
Thankfully, with a little help from Dr. Bach, we can give ourselves and our loved ones the gift of our presence this year. Which, to me, is worth more than all the shiny objects a stocking can hold.
So, let’s take a look at a few flowers that can offer relief when your mind has wandered off to another time and place.
The Ghost of Holidays Past
The sound of your favorite Christmas carol.
The smell of your mom’s pumpkin pie.
The sight of that special ornament you bought when you were first married.
No other time of year is as jam packed with experiences that simultaneously delight our senses in the present and trigger emotions that remind us of the past.
In most cases, this is a good thing. Sharing memories with loved ones helps to create the tapestry of our lives and keeps our traditions alive and thriving year to year.
However, there are times when those memories can bombard us and bog us down. This can be particularly true if you’ve lost a loved one or are without those you love at this time of year.
When you find yourself stuck in the past or thinking, “life was better back then”, reach for Honeysuckle. Never fear, Honeysuckle won’t wipe your memories away. It will just help you see the past in a way that is healthy and clear so you can cherish your memories while still remaining fully engaged in the present.
The Ghost of Holiday Present
Sometimes we have a hard time staying focused on the current moment because of the endless chatter going on in our heads. Much of the time, its chatter about what’s going on in our lives right now (or very recent past), that’s taking us out of the present moment.
For instance, perhaps you’re mentally going down every item on your to do list, reviewing it over and over, so much so that you it keeps you up at night.
Or, maybe you keep replaying the argument you had with your sister about the food you’re serving at the holiday meal, each time coming up with things you should have said and ways you could have handled it better.
Or, perhaps the lyrics to Ruldolph are playing over and over in your head, and you feel ready to permanently delete every version of it off of iTunes and cancel the entire holiday season altogether!
No need to take such drastic measures. Take some White Chestnut instead!
If your mind feels like it is constantly spinning, or like there’s a permanent news ticker playing life’s events on an endless loop, White Chestnut will help quiet the voices that keep endlessly talking (or singing), so you can let go and come back to the here and now.
The Ghost of Holidays Yet to Be
Not all people get lost in the past or stuck in a loop during this time of year. For many, much time is spent mentally escaping the present by dreaming of the future.
If you count yourself among the numbers of people who find their minds drifting off and thinking things like, “Next Christmas will be so much better. We’ll have more money. I can buy more gifts”, or you’re someone who often spaces out and gets lost in your very rich imagination, Clematis is the flower you want to try to help bring you back to the present moment.
Clematis is also a wonderful flower to take any time you’re feeling unfocused and can’t concentrate, or if you’re feeling numbed out and disconnected. It will help bring you back into your body and connect with your emotions.
“But wait!” you cry! I’m living in the past and future, and my brain is spinning on and on in an endless loop! What do I do?
Take all three flowers! Up to seven Bach flower essences can be mixed in a bottle at a time (although 3-4 usually do the trick). So, if you relate to all of the above flowers, by all means, take them. And if you happen to take one you don’t really need, there’s nothing to worry about. The only thing that happens when you take a flower that’s not beneficial is nothing. Nada. Zip. So experiment freely.
One more Friday until Solstice and Christmas are upon us! Check back next week for my final post on Bach flower essences to help you bring more peace, more calm and more joy into your holiday season.