Conquering conflict

Conquering conflict

Posted on Mar 7, 2014

Conquering conflict

If it’s one thing thing that this past Mercury retrograde period has shown me, it’s that most people do not like conflict or confrontation – myself included. In fact, many people go so far out of their way to avoid it, that they compromise their own health and wellbeing in the process.

I think it takes a certain amount of skill to handle conflict with grace. Thankfully, not only can those skills be learned, but adding Bach flowers to your life can offer much help on the journey to handling uncomfortable situations with ease. So, if you’re someone who would happily poke their eyes out with needles rather than face confrontation head on, today’s dose of flower empowerment is for you!

Here are four flowers to help you strengthen your confidence and handle disputes or arguments with courage and calm.

If you’re in denial
Are you someone who generally hides their emotions and dives into things like food, work or shopping in order to deal with painful experiences? Do you often put on a happy face and pretend nothing is wrong, while going to great lengths to keep the peace in your life, just so you don’t have to deal with the reality of negative situations? If so, then give Agrimony a try. This flower will help you find the courage to face reality, and the potential conflict that comes with it.

If you’re a people pleaser
Do you find it difficult to say no to other people’s requests? Do you submit to their demands, even when you don’t want to, just to avoid an argument? If you’re someone who allows themselves to become a doormat, just to keep other people happy, then consider adding Centaury to your morning green juice. This flower can help you get in touch with your own needs and restore the ability to ask for what you want in a straightforward, yet compassionate way.

If you escape to fantasyland
When there’s trouble on the horizon do you tend to escape into a world of fantasy to distract yourself from what’s going on? Or, do you spend way too much time on social media, Tweeting away the hours, just to avoid the disturbing matter at hand. Yes? Well, then grab yourself some Clematis and come back to reality. It’ll help ground you in the present and allow you to recognize that, “the only way out is through”.

If you’re just plain scared
Does the mere thought of confrontation strike fear in your heart? Are you scared of how the other person might react when you think about approaching a difficult topic with them? Are childhood fears of being punished or yelled at keeping you from standing up and having challenging, but necessary conversations? If you can relate to this nervousness and worry, then try Mimulus to help restore your courage.

Unfortunately, conflict is a necessary part of life. But it does not need to be feared or avoided. Try one of these Bach flowers the next time confrontation is in the air and see how empowering standing up for yourself and facing challenges head on can be.

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