FOMO be gone! Bach flowers for giving social media anxiety the boot
It’s no secret that I have a very love-hate relationship with social media, and technology as a whole. I was an early adopter of all things internet (I had a personal website and blog in 2004!), and truly loved it. The internet and our worldwide connectivity have brought many people and experiences into my life that I would not have had otherwise. And for that I am very grateful.
That same technology has, in recent years, been the source of much anxiety, depression and frustration in my life. I can easily get caught up in the compare and despair trap when browsing Facebook and I’ve been lost to FOMO*, more than I care to admit, when scrolling through Instagram photos of the “cool kids” meditating in Bali while I sit at home in my pajamas eating ice cream at 7pm on a Friday night.
And I don’t think I’m alone.
More and more I’m hearing from my clients that they feel depressed or sad when they log on to their social media feeds each day. Much like me, my clients feel as if their lives don’t measure up to the picture perfect ones being displayed by friends and acquaintances online. Plus, the fear of missing out on fun events is real and can be debilitating.
I think deep down we all pretty much know that what people put on social media and what goes on in real life are often two VERY different things. Right? Is there anyone left who can actually say, that at some point, they haven’t manipulated their online presence to make life look a wee bit better than it is? (Guilty as charged right here!)
Somehow though, that awareness and knowledge don’t seem to make falling into the trap of FOMO and friends any easier to avoid.
So what are we to do?
Of course you know what I’m going to say! Our good friend Dr. Bach has us covered.
Here’s a quick run-down of some top Bach flowers to help when you’ve got a case of FOMO (or its bestie, Compare And Despair) and need relief:
- For the vague anxiety and fear that FOMO produces, use ASPEN.
- If reading your Facebook feed leaves you feeling discouraged, try GENTIAN.
- If your confidence takes a hit every time you read a tweet from one of your business competitors, try LARCH.
- If hearing about the lives of others brings up jealousy, try HOLLY.
- If you log off Pinterest feeling like you’re too fat, old, not creative enough etc… (i.e. you spiral into self hatred) try CRAB APPLE.
- If each trip to Instagram-land finds you feeling bitter and resentful about your life and you end up begrudging others their successes, grab some WILLOW the next time you log on.
- And finally, to protect yourself from opinions and input from others, which can come from any and all media outlets, take a dose of WALNUT before you hop on to any electronic device.
If none of these flowers resonate for you, don’t despair. Each one of the 38 flowers in Bach’s system can be useful here. It all depends on what emotions get kicked up for you when you’re surfing the web. Check out the complete flower list here to find the right match. Or leave a comment below and I’ll help you figure it out.
Truly, the gift of life online is one that, when used properly, has the potential to enhance our lives and inspire us to great things. I’ve seen in my personal life, and in my practice, that the use of flower essences, combined with time spent offline in connection with nature, oneself and others, can go a long way toward making that a reality.
Try some today and let me know how it goes!
*for those of you as old as I am, who didn’t really know what FOMO meant until 5 minutes ago, it stands for Fear Of Missing Out
(image via socialexperiment.net)